Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Mother's Day 2010

I think about days like Mother's Day and Father's Day very differently now. I don't really like them. I called them "Hallmark Holidays" before. I didn't need a special day that someone else decided was a day to be celebrated. I felt special and loved most of the time anyway! These holidays were designed by the retail industry to make us spend our money. Now, I think of all the people who wish that these days didn't serve as a reminder of what they lost. Next, I think of anyone who actually loses a child or parent on Mother's Day or Father's Day...............worse!

What can I tell myself to get through this? I say things like, "it could be worse!" or, "I'm thankful I had them in the first place" and sometimes even, "I'll see them in heaven some day." It makes sense in my head but not always in my heart. Remember to cherish every moment; keep the people you love close!


Mandi said...

I always wish I had the perfect words to say to encourage you Debi but know there is really no such thing. Not for this. But just know I love you and pray for you often! xoxo

Debi said...

You're sweet Mandi! I'm so glad that you don't let,"not having the perfect words" keep you from commenting! To see that you're there and knowing that you're praying means the world to me! Thank you from the bottom of my heart ♥

DianeTaylor said...

Hi Debi - I am a long time follower of your blog (and Erinn's too). I finally had to post a comment - my heart just breaks for both of you. I can feel your pain thru your words - but I also see glimmers of hope shine thru. I pray for you and for others who have lost family members way too soon. I lost a 22 year old newphew in a tragic motor cycle crash back in 2003, 1 week before my wedding. Our family has never been the same since. It really does change who you are - forever. Thank you for your reminder to cherish each moment - Kevin's death taught me that. I believe that he is watching over me - and I know your husband and son are doing the same for you and Erinn and the kids. I wish you peace and strength on sad days - and joyous laughter on happy days with your beautiful grand babies!
Take care and God Bless - I'll try to comment more often instead of lurking all the time :):)
~diane~ (Baltimore md)

Anonymous said...

Dearest Daughter Debi,
I do try to dwell on the being thankful for the time we had. If it wasn't for Bill, I wouldnt have Sean and Colin now. If it wasn't for Patrick, I wouldn't have Will and Reese.
Patrick's last golf with me and Bill's working with me on real estate, are times I treasure. Yes I miss them a lot and I cried today explaining my bracelet to a couple of friends that did not know. All I can do is to love you with all my heart and pray to God for relief one of these days.
All my love.....Dad

Anonymous said...

No pains, no gains................................................................